Day 39: March 9
The thought for today is DIALOGUE.
When we face problems or disagreements today, we have to arrive at solutions through dialogue. Dialogue is the only appropriate method… We must work to resolve conflict in a spirit of reconciliation and always keep in mind the interests of others. – Dalai Lama
Talking through our differences with each other is, as the Dalai Lama noted, the only appropriate method for finding resolution. We cannot continue to resort to violent means to force our will upon one another. We destroy ourselves in the process.
It takes courage and a real commitment to Peace to sit and have a conversation with your adversary. It takes self-control, mindfulness, and humility. It is also essential to have a keen awareness of Who You Are and Who your adversary Is.
A conversation is a dialogue, not a monologue. – Truman Capote
A dialogue is more than two monologues. – Max Kampelman
Dialogue is two-way communication; it requires both speaking your truth and listening to others as they speak their truth. When we do so, we must remember those qualities that are part of our True Nature – Love, kindness, Peace, patience, gentleness, and compassion. We need to keep in mind those things we have reflected on over the last few weeks – understanding, making amends, forgiveness, respect, integrity, and reverence. Through dialogue, we seek not some tenuous agreement, but genuine and honest relationship.
In essentials, unity; in non-essentials, liberty, in all things, charity. – commonly attributed to Augustine; most scholars say this quote originated at least a millennium after Augustine.
Our goal should be finding solutions that are ‘win-win’ or beneficial to both parties. More than that, we should always serve the Highest Good and be aware that what ego-self wants isn’t always in alignment with the Highest Good. It’s important that we find common ground on those things that are important and essential, that we allow the freedom to disagree on those things that are not, and that we honor Love through it all.
In true dialogue, both sides are willing to change. – Thich Nhat Hanh
We cannot think that we have all the answers or that our way of doing things is always the right or only way. We must be willing to be open to change, so long as that change doesn’t compromise our integrity and harmony with our Source.
I choose dialogue as the course of action for resolving conflict in my life. I say what I need to say in a gentle, yet firm manner. I intently listen to my adversary and try to see the situation from her point of view. I am committed to finding solutions that are in the best interest of all parties involved. Above all, I serve Love in all my speech and actions.
breathe Peace ~