Happy Thanksgiving

With deepest gratitude for you and You. For every revelation that has opened my eyes. For every experience that has opened my mind. For every encounter that has opened my heart. For having been the recipient of so much Love each day that I am overwhelmed by it all. Thank you and You for making this life a celebration of Good.

With a humble heart I wish you and yours a Happy Thanksgiving.

Love & Peace ~

Rev. Rebecca

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Q&A: Speaking “My truth”

A friend asked the question this morning about “speaking one’s truth” and whether or not we should apologize for making the other person feel bad by doing so. I suppose it depends on individual circumstances. If you were physically, mentally, or emotionally harmed by another, it might be important to face the person who harmed you and give voice to what you are feeling. But it must be grounded in Love. This is where healing happens.

Having said that, however, I’ve always been uncomfortable with the use of the phrase “my truth.” For me, there is Ultimate Truth which is Love. In the overwhelming majority of instances, anything else that I might see diiferently or you may see differently is not “my truth” or “your truth” but simply my perspective and your perspective, either of which could be true or not and is distorted through the filter of our lived experiences and belief systems. When one calls something “my truth”, it has a tendency to become this immutable and immovable thing that prevents growth and healing. We feel as though we are ‘right’ and the other is therefore ‘wrong’. My friend Rev. Ric once said, “I can be right, or I can be Love.” Which is the better choice?

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Clearing the Clutter

When I walked in to my “home office” yesterday – a room I hadn’t really used as such in a long time and which had become a default storage room –  I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I looked around and honestly felt paralyzed and overwhelmed. I didn’t know where to start. That’s exactly how my life in general has felt lately.

As within, so without. Our outer space is a reflection of our inner space. But ridding the outer space of what doesn’t serve our Good can affect our interior space as well. It can be a starting point for forcing us to do some inner work that we may have been avoiding.

Why are we hanging on to certain things and is it time to let them go?
What memories and emotional attachments need healing?
Are we clinging to past dreams and goals that are no longer important or relevant to our present or future?
The things we had represented who we once thought we were. Do they represent who we now perceive ourselves to be?
Is it useful? Even a piece of art has a use if it inspires us. If it no longer does, why then do we hang on to it?

Clearing the outer clutter helps us clear the inner clutter in our soul that keeps us from moving forward. It frees us, allowing us room to move and breathe. It gives open space for creativity to flow.

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It’s Christmas.

I’m lying in bed under a couple of blankets listening to Jim Brickman play a simple “Silent Night” over the sound of rain falling outside my window. I’ve been awake since before 5 a.m. and contemplating the day before me. I had hoped to sleep in a little; I suppose it’s just as well seeing that I have to be back at work tomorrow morning at 6 a.m. to prepare for the post-holiday madness of returned gifts and clearance sales.

I’m still feeling no emotional connection to the day. No ‘warm fuzzies’. No memories of Christmas past or hopes for Christmas future to spark some dying ember in my soul. Christmas present feels like any other day on my calendar. Last night I spent the evening with four generations of my mom’s side of my family and this afternoon I’ll spend it with three generations of my dad’s side of my family. As much as I love seeing everyone, I’m still feeling disconnected from Christmas.

As I scroll through my Facebook newsfeed, I read countless well-wishes from friends and family for a happy holiday. Many have been up for a good part of the night preparing for children excited by the arrival of Santa. Their exhaustion is lessened by their own anticipation of those same young ones, eager to take part in their children’s joy. Others are looking forward to family meals and reconnecting with loved ones who have traveled far to be with them.

Perhaps that’s what I’m missing this season.


Human connection.

Meaningful conversations with people. Intimacy. Time spent with friends and family that doesn’t feel rushed and quite so planned that there is little room for something real to happen. The opportunity to participate in someone else’s joys and dreams and hopes. The privilege of sharing their grief and their lonely moments. Those times have been far too rare for me this year.

Job schedules and the busyness of everyday life always seem to get in the way. There’s laundry to be done and groceries to buy and errands to run and bills to pay and it’s time to go to bed to get up and do it all over again and…

Love gets lost in the shuffle.

But It doesn’t have to. Like a flower growing through a crack in the pavement, Love finds a way. And if we are mindful and aware we will see It. If we listen closely, It’s there whispering to us amidst the noise. If we open our hearts, It finds Its way in. Or out.

Many of the traditions of the holiday don’t resonate with my soul the way they used to. I desire new rituals that speak of my beliefs about the Divine Incarnate and of the connection we share, to let Love find new ways to express Itself in me and through me in ways that are authentic to me. I know they will be revealed in their own time. I only need to watch and listen and remain open. For now, I’m content to let it be what it is. 

Whatever your traditions are, I pray you discover Love’s presence. I hope you experience the Joy of Life. My wish for you is that you connect with your Higher Self and know the Goodness that resides at the core of every one of us. Connect with each other in a very real way. Love better than you think you’ve been loved. Show mercy. Practice forgiveness. Give without expectation. Be gracious. Walk humbly. In this way the Christ is born anew in you and as in you, so it is in the world.

I pray you and I make some time for sacred connection – with Self, with one another, with Love, with Life – over the coming year.

As for today, I gratefully receive it as the Gift it is. It’s time for me to get up, make some tea, and prepare to see family later today.

Have a wonderful day of connection.
Love & Peace ~

Rev. Rebecca

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Changing My ‘Story’

If we want to change a story, we have to expand the experience of the person telling it. ~ Rinku Sen

When I go around to various classes and organizations to tell my ‘story’, I often feel rather disconnected from that part of my life. It seems like a lifetime ago and I suppose in a way it was. The story I tell was of a person at a particular time and neither the person nor the time exist any longer. I’ve evolved.

When I try to remember the period when I felt like ending my life, I can’t recall those emotions. Isn’t that strange? To have at one time felt such deep anguish that I contemplated suicide and now it’s as though I’m telling someone else’s story because there is no emotional connection there any longer.

For those who have listened to me tell my story, I hope that you understand it has little to do with being transgender and the physical transformation that comes with that. That’s simply the path I took. It has everything to do with the awakening of the whole person. In the letting go of old mindsets that kept me imprisoned in pain, I began to heal. I changed my thinking and my belief system (or as my friend Martha likes to call it – my b.s.) and because I developed a new consciousness, my life changed. One thought at a time, one day at a time it changed. I entertained new perspectives and it led to different ways of doing and being. It’s still changing. Two decades from now, I may feel as far removed from my current story as I do now from my story of over two decades ago. I’m counting on it as I have much growing yet to do.

If you heard me speak, what I hope you got from my story is that change can happen. Your experience of life can become much richer and fuller if you but see it with new eyes and allow your experience to expand. Let go of old thought patterns and emotional habits that leave you feeling stuck. Open your mind and heart,  move in the direction of your Highest and Best Self, and see where your path takes you.

Peace & Blessings ~

Rev. Rebecca

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